Burnout Is Not Only A Buzzword That Sometimes Explains Any Stress And Unwillingness To Do Something, But Also A Very Real Description Of A Situation When Strength Is Really Running Out. This Can Relate To Work, Household Affairs, Relationships And, Of Course, Motherhood. How To Understand That You Are Almost "at Zero" - And Cope With It?
Burnout Is Not A Clinical Diagnosis, But It Is Pointless To Deny Its Existence. If You Feel Overwhelmed And Anxious Going On With Your Usual Activities, And At The Same Time Fear That You Are Not Doing Well Enough, This Is It.
When It Comes To Children, The Situation Can Be Even More Complicated, Because Work Can Be Quit, And The Offspring Is Essentially Not To Blame. Here Are The Signs That It's Time To Cool Down.
1. You Can't Sleep For A Long Time
Tossing And Turning From Side To Side, Scrolling Through The List Of To-do's For Tomorrow In Your Head: Pack Up To Kindergarten Or School, Take To The Doctor, Buy A Birthday Present, Play A New Game, Buy Shoes, Because The Child's Leg Has Grown ...
Coping: Learn To Delegate Tasks And Accept The Help That Is Offered. For Example, Let The Husband Take The Children In The Morning, And The Mother-in-law Goes With The Child To The Clinic For A Certificate. It Is Not Necessary To Cook A Five-course Dinner Every Day; No One Gets Sick From Spaghetti And Nuggets.
2. You Are Embarrassed To Be Imperfect
It Is Possible That You Are So Absorbed In Caring For Your Family That You Are Used To Being Sweet, Calm, Contented And Attentive To The Needs Of Others Around The Clock. And If You're Angry, You Feel Uncomfortable. Doing Everything For Others, Albeit Very Close Ones, Is Good Only On The One Hand. On The Other Hand, You Rarely Hear Words Of Gratitude, You Constantly Worry About Trifles, And Burnout Sets In.
How To Cope: Take A Diary And Write Down Everything You Do For A Week. Notice How Much Time And Effort You Spend On Caring For Others, And How Much On Yourself. Think About How You Can Change This. For Example, Instead Of Aimlessly Watching Television (from Which You Do Not Relax At All), You Can Talk To Your Partner. Or Watch Only Funny Shows And Tv Series In Order To Defeat Stress In This Way. Or Find Yourself A Hobby And Declare It One Of The Ways To "make A Good Mom", That Is, Put It A Priority.
3. You Feel Like You're Not Trying Enough
Recently, You Once Again Baked Cupcakes For The School Fair Until Morning, And You Constantly Help The Children With Their Homework So That They Get Good Grades. At The Same Time, You Do Your Best To Hide Negative Emotions And Constantly See That Other Mothers Are Doing Even More. The Cycle Of Stress Does Not Stop.
How To Cope: Stop Being Heroic. In Any Case, You Are Doing Enough For The Children To Make Them Feel Happy. And If An Exemplary Mother Makes A Sarcastic Comment About You, Then Instead Of An Unprintable Answer Say Something Like: "i Considered Myself A Robot That May Never Sleep, But I Am Still A Human Being." Or: "i Feel Better When I Am Resting Well, It's More Important Than Cupcakes."
4. You Sometimes Regret Becoming A Mother
No Need To Scold Yourself For Such Thoughts! It's Not Forbidden To Think About How Life Would Be Without Children. But If You Constantly Scroll This Option In Your Head, It Will Become Difficult To Get Out Of Stress.
Coping: Getting Distracted Through Exercise. Sometimes It Is Enough To Spin Around The Room For A Couple Of Minutes And Get Distracted. You Can Play Music Or Read A Book To Think About Something Else. If All Else Fails, It Is Best To See A Specialist.
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